Your time with us (Introduction)

Yes, it was only like yesterday that I held you in my arms, called you sweet names and kissed you. Yet I

need to really recall all the details, yes, all the details of your days, from the day you were born to the day you left us - forever. I am looking forward to be with you once again, and this time for eternity.

For I have missed you, cried for you until there are no more tears to be shed, until my throat runs dry and tight and the days pass without knowing what days or night. Yes, I will recall your days, and come back here and write every single piece of memory as it comes back to me.

You are forever in my heart. I love you even when you have left me.

I will ask your mum, your brothers and sister, your own family member for every single moment they remember about you and I will pen them down. For how am I to remember when I spent a lot of time away, in Australia, United Kingdom, Germany, Holland, Denmark and other parts of Europe, Singapore, Indonesia, Brunei, Thailand, Japan? But, wherever I was, you were always with me in my heart, my mind and soul.

There were times I wished I did not go so far away and left you behind. Now I know my time away from you were regrettable. I will never get those times back.

For I know those times have gone by, never to come back again.

Songs dedicated to Timothy

  

       


                                                                                                     

Malay version of "Our Father"

                                                                                                                                                            

Timothy's Album

Why I created this blog

Why this blog?

• I was suffering from trauma for 2 years since Timothy's (my third son) accident on July 1, 2011

• Then the brick wall collapsed when he finally passed away on August 29, 2013

• The trauma and loss were so painful that I lost 21 kg in the 2 years

• I am wondering whether I can recover from this trauma

Solicitation

• So I am soliciting ideas, words of comforts, expert advice on how to cope with this tragedy

• Please make your contributions here so we, together, can help others who are going through the same situation as I am

Dedication

• To all who have been going through loss of loved ones and the trauma of caring for sick and suffering

• To my son, Timothy, whom I have loved for 39 years and forever

• To Timothy's mother, Catherine, who has sacrificed so much for Timothy from his birth, growing years, sickness and passing away.

ICU after heart surgery

Timothy during healthy days

Departing for IJN for heart surgery

With wife, Vivien after surgery